The first time you see a dick — an actual one, not in porn — is quite the experience.
For me, at least, it was a mix of emotions that I’ll probably remember for the rest of my life. It was like a moment in a movie – where time stopped, and all that mattered was that thing in front of you. And all you can hope is that nothing will go wrong.
My first time seeing a penis made me realize I can’t set my expectations too high. Porn and media have given me the impression that all penises are sizeable, and giving good head would be challenging.
But this dick, the first dick I ever did a blowjob on, was a good warm-up.
Initial Thoughts
At 19 years old (yes, I popped my cherry too late), it was dumbfounding to realize that even with some knowledge from porn, I had no fucking clue what to do with a penis.
I was confused. How do you get it up? Is it supposed to get up on its own? Was I supposed to do something to make it hard? HOW THE FUCK DOES THIS WORK?
It’s safe to say my first blowjob was a disaster. My hand skills were flimsy, the licking was awkward, and I probably put it in my mouth too soon because it got full-on hard inside at some point.
I gagged, which was funny because, looking back, it wasn’t a dick worth the reflex.
How To Give The Perfect Blowjob
I beat myself up for that shitty blowjob for quite some time. I thought I failed as a sexual partner. No way but up, right?
So here are some tips I’ve tried and tested on how you can do a blowjob so good he’d want to reward you for it generously.
Show Intent
This is where you embrace your inner seductress. You can start by making out, give him kisses on his lips and jaw, and maybe even go down towards his neck to his collarbone.
As you do that, caress his body. From his arms, slowly move to the chest, to the stomach, and continue until you reach his package.
Gently massage it at this point, with clothes on, preferably. The making out gets his attention, but exerting some form of dominance on his penis will make him want to put all his focus on you and what you’d do next.
Start The Show
It’s time to show a little showmanship here, ladies and gents. Go on top of him and start stripping. Throw in some kisses here and there as you slowly take off your clothes. DO NOT LOSE EYE CONTACT. It turns them on, trust me. Then do this.
Grind on him as you leave a trail of tiny kisses from his neck, then do his pants. I would guess he’s already stiff around this time, so gently tug on them to reveal his dick. Look eager, my friends, whether it’s big, small, or average-sized.
On to the Main Event
Start with breathing on his dick. Once you reach the top, treat it like a lollipop. Lick it a little, gently suck on it as you massage it up and down. It ain’t wet yet, so be gentle with the up-and-down motion.
Look at him now and then and see how he responds. You’re doing great if he’s breathing heavily or tilting his back.
Now comes the (relatively) tricky part. Make sure your lips are wet, and your mouth isn’t dry for this one. Slowly, try to take the entire penis in your mouth. Open it wide enough so your lips are covering your teeth.
Go up and down, slowly at first, then try to pick up the pace as you get his dick more lubricated with your saliva.
Take a moment to breathe and go back to the lollipop trick. It’s an excellent way to give your jaw a break, too. But take it up a notch and pick up the pace as you give him a hand job while you lick the tip.
Bonus Tip: Use Your Hands
Hand jobs are essential, too, so you can have a break from all the sucking and for added variation.
Start by using just your fingertips for the gentle massage, trace the back of his penis, and rub the top part a little. Then, take it with your entire hand as you go along. The pace would depend on what you’re doing and how he likes it.
Alternate this with some mouth-on-penis action, and voila! The perfect blowjob.
What I like to do sometimes, aside from the lollipop move, is fingering myself while I go down on him. It’s a hot show for him and a treat for you. Because, let’s face it, blowjobs can either turn you on or make you impatient. And this multitasking technique can help with that.
Embrace the Learning Curve
Don’t be discouraged if your initial attempts don’t meet your expectations. Just like any skill, practice makes perfect. Communication with your partner is vital. Ask for feedback, listen to their desires, and explore together to find what works best for both of you.
Sexuality is a journey. There’s always room for improvement and growth. Embrace the learning curve, don’t be too hard on yourself, and keep experimenting.
You can become a true maestro of pleasure with time, patience, and a sense of adventure.
